Never before have I felt “it’s the little things that count” a more applicable saying….A LDR can be really tough, especially as each partner settles into their new routine. Lately it’s been increasingly more difficult for me to talk to Jay as much as I would like to…I have friends over when he’s hanging out at home and then he goes out and I fall asleep. This is when the loneliness can start to sink in…
But today I realized how awesome a simple wake up call can be in an LDR. Jay and I primarily use iMessage to communicate, with an occasional Face Time call. We didn’t get to talk last night and I was kinda bummed about it. Usually I message Jay when I wake up, just a couple hours before his bedtime. This morning I slept through my alarm and woke up to something different…a Face Time call from Jay. It was the best surprise.
It’s amazing how this simple gesture lifted my mood. Even though I was rushing around to get ready for work, having Jay to talk to was awesome. We got to chat a little and since it was a video call it felt more special than our iMessaging would have last night. Despite waking up late and rushing around to prepare for work, today was a great morning.
So if you’re feeling upset with a lack of communication with your partner, or just having a bad day don’t underestimate the simple gestures. Your girlfriend seemed upset yesterday? Try a surprise Face Time call. You didn’t get to talk to your boyfriend yesterday? Try sending him a box of “Open When” letters for the next time you can’t talk. Missing your partner’s face? Try sending a good, old-fashioned email full of pictures of you…It can be a fun variation of a “phone-tag” game.
Whatever you decide to do just remember that you don’t have to do anything extravagant to impress your partner. If the LDR is destined for success, any effort from you will be greatly appreciated by your partner.