Day Sixty-One: Be Proactive

Ever have one of those terrible days, starting with a late morning wake up and a rush to work? Well if this day turns into a repeated event, you may want to take a closer look at it.

When we stress over things, our body can take several different positions. Some people eat their feelings away, wear sweatpants, and lay around all day. Others workout in excess and become obsessed with a certain activity/mindset. While others forget to eat, find themselves laying on the couch watching Netflix, and rarely have any desire to move (look at the time, I’ve been watching Netflix for six hours).

You may think, why am I posting about this in an LDR blog? And here’s why: Lately I’ve been experiencing some of these symptoms. Whether I’m just getting sick, recovering from last weekend (it’s been a loooooong recovery), or I truly am stressing I thought it would be a great subject to discuss with you. If you also notice yourself slipping away into an unfamiliar and possibly damaging routine, be proactive about the situation. If you notice it quickly, you may be able to pinpoint the cause and reverse your behavior before it damages your livelihood.

If you are stressed, this may be stemming from the challenges of your LDR. Truthfully I do not know if that’s true in my case, but I have an inkling it is part of my issue. So here are my simple steps to returning back to your normal self:

1. Recognize the problem: this may seem easy for some, but it can be the most difficult step in the process for others. Once you recognize that your behavior has changed, it will be easier to fix those changes.

2. Stop and Think: Give yourself a moment to breathe. Sit down, make a list of the differences in your behavior and possible causes for stress.

3. Develop a Plan: This is very important. Create a plan to better your life and get it back on track. You should talk to your SO about this one. They know you better than anyone (besides yourself) and can help plan a daily or weekly schedule to get you back on track. Talking together about your need for a little redirection can really help strengthen your connection with your SO while also helping you improve as an individual.

4. Make a Pro List: Write down a list of all the great things in your life. I recommend writing this with your partner. It will help you focus on what’s important in your life and help you better see your awesome relationship. You may think, why do this after the planning step? I believe that once you go through creating a plan it is important to see why you made it. This will really motivate you to stick with the plan.

5. Check Up: Haven’t been stressed in a while? Check-up on yourself. Do a self-evaluation to make sure you’re still going in the right direction and share your success with your SO. The more positive encouragement you get (whether it be from yourself or from others) the greater chance you are of revitalizing that life of yours!

So if you’re falling into an LDR-induced stress or a mid-life crisis at the age of 25, follow my simple steps to return to your happy self. Good luck on your new stress free routine!


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