Planning a visit with your SO is extremely exciting, especially if you’ve been apart for a long time. Jay is coming to visit me in February for the first time since he left in August. Now we are starting to make a list of things we want to do together during the visit. I don’t want to get lost in the excitement and end up doing absolutely nothing (although that can sometimes be fun).
Here are some tips and tricks to planning your special visit together:
1. Mark your calendar. When your SO comes to visit you need to make sure your schedule is as open as possible. It’s best to mark off all of the dates earlier so you can avoid making other plans on those days. Sometimes it can be difficult to remember the entire range of dates (usually you know that starting date and ending date of the visit). Having a visual can really help ensure you keep that schedule clear.
2.Make a list. Once you have the dates, make a list with your SO of all of the activities you want to do and places you want to go together. Keep a running list so you can see all of your options.
3. Prioritize your activities. When you have the list it’s time to narrow down your ideas. There is a good chance that the visit will be too short to do all of those things. So rank the list to make it a little easier to cut back on things.
4. Take note of time. After you rank the activities, you should look at the time commitment of each. Is it an all-day activity? Or can you squeeze it in for the afternoon? This will help you fill in your schedule.
5. Contact mutual friends. Chances are the two of you have lots of friends together. It’s important to try and schedule some things to do with your friends. Yes, you may want to have all of the time together, but if your SO is visiting for more than a week you should really try and see some friends. This will be a great time for everyone involved and it will ensure nobody regrets not getting together. You should plan ahead by texting friends months in advance. That way people can’t get mad for you not telling them about the visit.
6. Create a tentative plan. Now that you broke your activities into time frames, you can add them to a schedule. Try not to overwhelm yourself with too many things in one day but make sure you’re getting the most out of the visit.
7. Inform your SO. It can be really fun to plan a visit, but often times one partner does all the planning. If you’re the schedule creator (obviously with input from your SO) make a cute itinerary or calendar and send it to your SO so they can get even more excited for the trip. This will also make it easier to stick to the schedule.
8. Be flexible. Most likely you won’t do everything you planned during the visit. Don’t sweat it. If you miss something you really wanted to do, just move it to another day. Don’t be afraid to live in the moment. See how you feel. Sometimes a Netflix day will feel even more special than a trip to NYC.
There you have my top 8 tricks and tips to planning a visit with your LDR SO. Happy planning!