You’re bored and lonely at home. All you want to do is snuggle up with your SO and watch a movie or chat with them about your day. But they’re off having fun with family or friends. Maybe they took a weekend trip or they’re at a wedding. So you’re stuck at home feeling sorry for yourself, binge-watching Netflix and missing your SO. We have all been there. It doesn’t take a LDR to feel this loneliness, but sometimes the feelings can be amplified within a LDR. So how do you cope with this type of situation?
1. Don’t complain to your SO. This is important. It’s okay to jokingly tell them “you abandoned me, what will I do?” or “aaah, gonna be so bored” but you should never put blame on them. Don’t say “because of you I have nothing to do” or “since you’re not here I’m miserable.” You need to live your life. And one of the most wonderful things about a LDR is that you can be in a loving and committed relationship while also living your own life to it’s fullest potential. So don’t blame your SO for your self-pity. Get out there and have some fun!
2. Hang out with friends. Being in a relationship can sometimes cause you (whether conscious of it or not) to miss out on gatherings with your friends. Maybe your date night coincides with ladies movie night. Or perhaps you’re both attending a family function during the big game. This is one of the best things about having a LDR. Are you feeling lonely? Then call up a friend! Go grab coffee or catch up over drinks. You don’t have to feel bad about “ditching” your SO because LDRs have a lot more flexibility. So you have to delay Skype for a couple hours or even a couple days, no worries. You’ll have a ton of things to talk about by then!
3. Find a hobby. Jay is in Australia learning how to surf. Besides being so incredibly jealous (I mean, come on, he’s SURFING) I also feel compelled to pick up a hobby. LDRs free up more of your time to discover who you are and develop new interests. I’m not sure what I want to do yet as my new hobby, but I’m excited with the possibilities!
4. You be you. Ever want to go to dinner alone, just to see what it’s like? Have you ever treated yourself to a spa day just for fun? Or what about a spontaneous day trip? For some people, this brings on a deeper sense of loneliness…but for others it can bring on a sense of empowerment. Do the things you’ve always wanted to do but kept making excuses about. You do you. Be yourself.
So there you have my four basic steps to overcome the loneliness associated with a LDR. Put your chin up and smile wide, my friends. There are far worse things in the world than LDRs.