Distance sucks, I know. But have you ever stopped to think about how your LDR is actually helping you? Sometimes I’ll have an “ah-HA!” moment where I can’t help but be grateful for my LDR.
There are a lot of things in life that you won’t realize until you have a specific experience. Prior to the distance, I would get irrationally upset if Jay didn’t invite me to something. It didn’t matter if it was just a spontaneous gathering or a night with the guys. I was always bothered by it. For some reason, being so close geographically made me want to be with him physically even more than I want to now…and if I wasn’t with him how could he be having fun without me?!
It all seems so crazy and silly to me now. I think the distance has not only opened the geographical gap between us, but also heightened my acceptance of certain situations. I accept that we aren’t restricted to each other’s company and no longer feel worried when Jay hangs out with other people. I don’t think I ever consciously thought this way, but my actions and emotions from university days may tell a different story. I’m sure it doesn’t all have to do with the distance since I’ve matured quite a bit since university. But there is a significant correlation between my ability to relax and the start of the distance.
I’ve come to realize that there are far worse things in the world than my boyfriend living in a different country. There are people without food, water, or a home. People are victims of violence and hatred each day. My biggest problem is only getting to see my boyfriend a few times a year. That’s a “first world problem” if I ever heard one! My life is pretty great. What’s the point of focusing on the small negative details when there are so many positive experiences I can enjoy?
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